Son of ace Ghanaian broadcaster Kwasi Kyei Darkwah better known as KKD, Darkwah Kyei-Darkwah, a model has opened up about being gay in a digital magazine where he publishes.
According to ‘Jnr’ Darkwa, he had a difficult time coming out about his sexuality and it led to him hiding it most of the time.
He says he remembers instances when he used to be very quiet, obedient and often stayed in his room so that he will not be noticed while living with his parents.
He has, however, gone past that stage in his life and he’s currently free to walk the talk without the need to conform to anybody’s standard in terms of sexuality.
In an article titled ‘To Be Young, Gifted, Black and Queer‘ which was published by Darkwah Kyei-Darkwah himself, he spoke to other budding gay models with African backgrounds on issues they face as queer people of colour.
Whereas one Kobe Darko revealed that “Even today, he still remembered early childhood memories that helped him understand and accept his sexuality. He really can’t pinpoint, he feels like he has always known. He has always been gay. “
Meanwhile, George Adje also had this to say about being gay, his Nigerian father who was vocally homophobic as compared to his mom. “I’m usually more easily and more viscerally attracted to men than women, but I seem to develop emotional connections with women more easily than I do with men. Perhaps that’s because I’m generally more nervous around hot guys than I am around hot girls.“
As the publisher of the article, Darkwah gave a lengthy narrative on his part justifying his reasont to be gay, a smart attempt to finally tell the world he’s gay… and it worked. Darkwah Kyei-Darkwah revealed that, “The moment I realized I was gay happened in Primary School. Someone called me gay as an insult and I responded with “So what?” I was totally fine with it, but others weren’t and that was when the discomfort and shame with my sexuality started.”
“Living under my parents’ roof, I was constantly hiding. I’d get home from school and be incredibly quiet, helpful, and obedient. I stayed in my room most of the time. I was playing the role of the “ideal son” so I could just skate by unnoticed. It wasn’t until I was no longer living at home that I started to realize I wasn’t anyone or anything I’d known so far in my life.”
“I went through a lot of ups and downs, trying out new ways of dressing, trying out new friendship groups, and reinventing myself over and over again. I realize I did this because I was still trying to fit in a box – the stylish black guy, the cool and macho black guy, the femme, flamboyant and fun black guy. None worked because there is a lot more to me (and any person for that matter) than a stereotype. I am now very comfortable with my sexuality because I don’t feel I need to conform to any one image,” he concluded.
Meanwhile in Ghana, being gay comes with grave challenges. It’s not accepted by the majority and there have been moves to criminalise homosexuality.
The Speaker of Parliament, Mike Ocquaye Jnr, was recently reported have lashed out at human rights group Amnesty International who called on him to relax his stance on gay rights.