What most women want is a lasting loving relationship. And they want toe-curling, fabulous, heart-to-heart connection sex. They want to be respected and cherished by the men they date. And while they might be attracted to a sexy man on a first date, they don’t have sex before they’re in an exclusive, monogamous relationship. Because they don’t want to be objectified or viewed as just a plaything, soon to be tossed out for the next shiny woman who comes along.
Nobody likes first dates.
They’re awkward, they usually involve some kind of drink or meal that you’d rather not share with a stranger, and there’s always that hesitant question at the forefront of both your minds: Are we going to have sex later?
Thanks to a lot of poodle skirts and antiquated ideas about dating, first-date sex has become a topic of controversy, with many of us still believing in the shameful stigma attached to it.
There are so many “rules” about sex and dating. Don’t do it until the third date. If you sleep with someone right away, it means you’re not interested in more than sex. Or, worse, it means that they’re not interested in more than sex. But personally? I’ve always said forget the rules but then again, i have lost interest in dates and the whole drama it comes with it. When it comes to sex and dating, I say, have sex when you’re ready to have sex — even if it’s on the first date.
The women who have slept with men in that spontaneous heat of passion were often forgotten the next day.
These women go from bliss to devastation in a matter of hours. That awful feeling of being used, questioning their self-worth—it’s not a fun place to be.
Sure, there are exceptions. There are women who slept with a man on first date, and they ended up marrying that hottie. There are some women who can have sex on a first or second date, and they’re okay.
That’s because they’re not emotionally invested in having a relationship at this time in their life. They know what they want, and they are okay if it doesn’t lead to more emotional intimacy.
Let’s check out some 6 Reasons Why Women Think Sex On a First Date is Okay
Because you want: If you’re planning on having sex with a guy, what’s the point in waiting? As long as you’re both having sex on your terms, and you both know what sex will and won’t mean, I think there’s nothing wrong with having sex on the first date. You’re a consenting adult, so don’t feel pressured by vague social rules telling you when to seek pleasure.
It could communicate great things about you: I asked a friend what attracted him to his wife. He was very clear — she didn’t worry about whether they should sleep together or not. In fact, she wasn’t worried about anything. She was living in the moment and he loved being around her.
Women believe it’s a way of testing your sexual chemistry and compatibility: Anyone can talk a good game when it comes to sex, but there really isn’t a better way to figure out if you’d be a good fit with someone in the bedroom than actually having sex with them. Why wait two, three, or four or more dates to find out whether or not you’re both a good fit sexually?
To figure out guy’s intention about the relationship: Anyone can say that they’ll stick around after sex, but will they? Personally, I’m a big fan of confronting a potential negative sooner rather than later, and there’s no better way to quickly determine if someone is only in it for sex than by having sex with them, say my friend Akosua.
It Saves time: It really comes down to this: Would you rather someone leaves after sex on the first date, when you haven’t invested much into them, or after the fifth date, after you’ve invested weeks of time getting to know them?
It gets the awkward time out of the way: For most people, the first time they have sex is probably the most awkward time they’ll have sex. You might have a vague idea about what their preferences are, but you won’t have the practical experience to really wow them the first go round. If you’re planning on making sex with them a regular thing, you might as well get the first time out of the way so you can really start having fun.
So let’s get rid of the “no sex on the first date” rule. If you’re ready to have sex, I think you should go for it.6 Reasons Why Women Think Sex On a First Date is Okay Click To Tweet