Don’t hold back, shop ‘til you drop’ as long as you spend that cash the ‘right’ way.
When you need a little lift, do you like to go shopping?
Oh wait –do you feel guilty shopping because it’s bad, consumerism is wasteful, others aren’t as fortunate as you, blah blah blah, and other reasons from a never ending list?
Well, here’s some news for you: Money can buy happiness!
5 Ways To Be Truly, Madly, DEEPLY Happy With Yourself
Research shows that happiness DOES result from spending money, when we spend it in certain ways. And now we know the smart rules that reinforce spending money in ways that bring us joy:
• Buy experiences.
• Use cash to improve how you spend time.
• Get yourself treats.
• Pay now or ahead of time.
• Be generous –share it.
Frankly, I agree with all of the above! But, I think there’s more to the ‘money CAN buy happiness’ theory than the aforementioned especially in a critical 21st Century where everything involves spending.
There’s also the pure joy of shopping/spending to celebrate yourself!
Lawyer/Fashionista and TV host Sandra Ankobiah is a typical example of ‘Money can make you happy.” Just imagine her lifestyle without all the traveling and shopping avenues. It’s as boring as any ordinary celebrity. Some may call it “show off” but the truth is, you are madly, deeply happy with yourself –the world can wait!
Don’t you find it so gratifying when you buy the perfect item to express who you are and then wear it to exclaim that to the world? Or, winning a challenge and buying a symbolic reminder to look at, each morning, as a reminder of your victory and motivation for the next big win?
Are those shallow purchases? Quite the opposite. Those purchases are tools that reinforce your deepest desires and support you in doing your boldest work within the world.
Okay, so maybe you don’t need to spend money on this. You can also find non-monetary ways to acknowledge, celebrate and represent your life events.
However, if you do choose to spend a bit of cash, enjoy it! Don’t feel guilty! It’s no crime to spend after all.
Buying automatically to numb or avoid life is not the way to spend, and it’s probably what gave spending money a bad reputation! Racking up debt or filling our closets to capacity with things we don’t need, use, or enjoy is pointless and leads us to feel depressed rather than delighted. There’s no value in that!
So here are some amazing ways to spend money gleefully (plus some fun ideas to still get a kick if you’re ever a bit short on celebratory cash):
Celebrate With Symbolism
Buy yourself something just because it speaks to you deeply. Not in a ‘must have it because it’s the next new thing’ way, but because it reflects an aspect of your inner being and makes you feel stronger, happier, smarter or better. Buy a symbol to remind yourself of something important you did or something important you’re creating.
No cash to indulge yet? Go for a walk and find something in nature that speaks to you. Either collect it or take a picture to display. Capture the moment, as well as, the meaning and treasure it each day.
It’s obvious that it isn’t cash itself but still worth it.
Fund Your Liberation
When you have cash on reserve, you’re free to take advantage of spontaneous opportunities that arise –like attending a niece’s birthday party unexpectedly or showing up to celebrate an old friend’s achievement. Spending your available cash on what’s important to you (and avoiding what isn’t) frees up extra cash to save for future freedom.
Don’t have enough cash yet? Practice spending energy on what’s important to you and creatively make your presence felt in situations when you can’t yet swing buying that plane ticket. Make a video for your niece or create a photo book for your friend.
There are several things happy people do way differently with ‘spending’.
Invest In Your Growth
Maybe there’s a course or program that doesn’t align with your career path, but you’d really enjoy taking anyway. Without rationalizing whether it’s wise to spend money on something you don’t ‘need,’ invest in nurturing ALL sides of your mind and personality –simply because you want to!
Until that cash reserve is adequate, explore the possibilities of how you can still broaden your knowledge. Make a list and investigate ways to delve into some of those subjects (watch TED Talks, look for free online classes, or attend interesting Meet-ups in your community).
If you spend your money on experiences, you can increase your happiness. There are a two key ground rules, though. First, stay within your budget. Spending more money than you have creates stress and lowers happiness. Second, don’t blow all of your money on one great event. You are better off sitting in the cheap seats for a number of sporting events than sitting courtside at one. Spread those good experiences out over time.